The emotional turmoil related to having kids with ADHD, or any type of learning difference or disability can take its toll. That being said parenting in general is a hard job and I don’t want to belittle the challenges of parenting a child who may not have a diagnosable disorder. We are all doing our best. So the following is a chart of how the reactions are different when you parent one type of child or the other. The labels are only to distinguish and not a judgment call on the kids. This is all in fun. So please don’t take it too seriously.
|1||Child becomes angry mumbles and storms off to their room.||I don’t know how much attitude I can take from that child.||Wow, he handled that well.|
|2.||A child gets a C or D on a report card in a class that was a struggle.||I am glad you passed but you need to do better next time.||“CLAPS HANDS STOMPS FEET” Thank God you passed. We can go forward from here. ( They might even shed a few tears)|
|3.||Phone call from school||Oh no I hope my child is alright.||Oh God what has he/she done now?|
|4.||Child is making irritating, minimally disruptive noise at an event.||Stop before you disturb someone.||Doesn’t even hear it.|
|5.||Excited child tells a completely disconnected story about his/her day.||Slow down, I cannot understand you.||Follows along perfectly. This is their everyday.|
|6.||Time to leave the house.||2:00pm Get dressed we are going a movie. Time to go. (This may need to be repeated a few times, they are kids.) Make it there on time.||1:00pm. We are going to a 4:00 movie today. Please get dressed. 2:00pm. OK you are showered put on clothes.
3:00 pm. The movies Is 30 minutes away shoes and sock. 3:30 pm We are going to be late. 3:45 walk out the door. No not late the movie actually started at 4:25pm.
|7.||There is a substitute teacher tomorrow.||Nothing they know how to act.||“OK your regular teacher is not there tomorrow…….”|
|8.||Drop kid off at school and there is a substitute and you did not know.||Once again nothing.||Sits by the phone all day dreading the phone call. “Riinnnnng”|
|9.||Party Day at school, cookies, candy, and everything else bad and full of sugar||They will crash tonight from a sugar high||Sits by the phone all day dreading the phone call. “Riinnnnng”|
|10.||There is a change in schedule for any reason.||Nothing. They will be fine.||Sits by the phone all day dreading the phone call. “Riinnnnng”|